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Don’t Blame the Eater

            Some things that happen to people or in the world need not be blamed on the person who does the action. The topic does not necessarily refer to food eating but it has a wide field of thinking. David Zinczenko wrote an article on the literal meaning of not blaming the eater. He supported a group of children who wanted to sue a fast food hotel for making them fat. He supported the children by arguing that the cooks of the food are responsible for the fattening of the children and are to be blamed. This essay will not focus on the literal meaning of the topic but on the raising and indiscipline of children. It is my argument that the children should not be blamed for their behavior but their parents should.

An angry generation has been created due parents failing to discipline their children while still young. The methods used by parents to advice and discipline their children is what counts on the behavior of their children (Clark, Par 1). If a parent becomes violent with their children then the children will grow up to be aggressive and very disruptive. These children are not to blame for their aggressiveness since it was not their will to be that aggressive but the way their parents brought them up. When this type of parenting is compared to the parenting where the parents combine warmth with clear rules and advice their children tend to be well behaved.

Research has been conducted by the National Academy for Parenting Research. The research has shown that a negative way of parenting full of harsh treatment, inconsistent discipline, is all associated with misbehaving of the children (Clark, par 4).Negative discipline towards children cause severe problems compared to the other parents. The research shows that some rich families lavish their children with material things but take no part in their upbringing. Definitely these children will not have good moral values in life after they have grown up. People tend to blame these children for everything they do without realizing that it is because of their parents’ upbringing methods. Poor supervising of the children on their activities and their mothers suffering depression is also linked to the indiscipline and their bad behavior.

Parenting is the biggest influence on a child’s development. What the child turns out to be is not to the parent’s credit but to the parent’s blame. The factors that influence how the child grows up are out of the parent’s control (Bowers, P26).It is true that a parent cannot fully protect the child but the parent can fully prepare the child of what is expected of him or her. It is not for the parent to always be beside the child for the child to be disciplined but the parent can inform the choices of the child and change the life. This cannot happen to the families where the parents are ignorant of their children’s choices and play a very small or no part in their children development. As a child develops, parents are only after providing the best for their children to ensure that the children lead a productive and successful future. Parents are usually a very important part of the child’s life by providing guidance and morals required for the future (Miakouna, Par 2).

When a child becomes exceptional and successful in life, the parents takes the credit quickly. The same should happen when the child becomes deviant and acquires bad behavior. The parents should take the blame since they never gave the child the best lessons that were needed for the child to be good. There is an impact that the parents have on their children that determines what kind of a person the child might become. Children should be impacted through the influence of their parents and the decisions that the parents choose for their guidance and support (Miakouna, Par 3).When the parents do not install proper teaching to the child, then they are likely to deviate because of the family. This explains how delicate the teachings and the methods of bringing up the children is in the behaviors of their children.

In conclusion I would support any claim that the children are not to blame for how they behave. The children are undisciplined just because they were not taken through the right upbringing procedure. The task of bringing up the children in the right way is in the hands of the parents. This means that any misconduct of the children along the way should be the responsibility and the parents to blame.

Works Cited

Clark, Laura: The Angry Generation: Lack of Parental Discipline is blamed for Aggressive and. 2012, February 27.Print

Miakouna: Anti-Social Children who is to blame when a Child goes bad? How Parents’Behavior affects the behavior of Children. 2013, May 7. Print.

Bowers, Ellen: The Everything Parent’s Guide to Positive Discipline. Adams Media.2011. Print

Mitra, Laxmi: Discipline your Child. Xlibris Corporation.2012. Print.